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No matter how much I brought up the subject of meeting, he switched the subject.

No matter how much I brought up the subject of meeting, he changed the subject.

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It Takes All Kinds

Online dating is a wonderful way for two people that would otherwise never meet each other to go out on a date. Personally, I know at least four couples who are now cheerfully married that met online. So yes, online dating can undoubtedly work. However, this is not necessarily a hub about the positive aspect of online dating.

This hub is about the types of guys you meet while using online dating sites. Not all of the guys you meet are going to be a good match. Some guys are just outright scary. It is effortless to see why they are dating online because if they approached an actual woman in person and used one of their cheesy online dating pickup lines, they would get spanked in the face.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not discouraging anyone from using online dating sites. I am just telling there are some types of dudes that show up on every website. And guys, yes, I know there are some weird women approaching you on online dating sites, too. By all means, please write your own hub about it. I truly do want to hear all about it from a masculine’s perspective. For now, let’s discuss guys using online dating sites from the female perspective.

Potential Serial Killer

On every dating site, there is a super creepy stud stashing about. On some sites, there are numerous freakish looking dudes wandering around all over the site. You know who I am talking about. These are the guys that look like they’ve just killed a kitten or they have a dead assets buried under their house.

Often, their photo looks like a mugshot. When using an online dating site, it is always a nice idea to attempt to comb one’s hair and SMILE. It can go a long way making that mugshot photo look semi-friendly. Sometimes the photo is a sad webcam photo. The stud is alone, just sitting (usually shirtless) in the basement. It is sad, but no one is going to react to that. Yes, that dude might be a serial killer.

Foot Fetish Man

Oh, Foot Fetish Dude, you are everywhere on the internet. No harm to you or your foot fetish, but your love of feet has become almost a clichΓ© in the world of online dating. No matter what site you use for online dating, there is always a Foot Fetish Boy. He likes to talk about feet in his profile. He offers to rubdown your feet if he meets up with you. Sometimes, you might even find a dude that offers you some cash to send photos of your feet. Yes, this has happened to me before. No, I did not take him up on the suggest.

The bottom line is, Foot Fetish Stud needs love, too. Somewhere out there, there is Foot Fetish Gal, and she is going to be more than glad to meet up with him. So wherever the foot fetish folks are, more power to you. I hope you find each other and marry someday.

Obviously Gay and In Denial Dude

OK, this is a touchy subject. I am not attempting to be controversial with Obviously Gay and In Denial Fellow, but every woman out there KNOWS what I am talk about. Let’s not kid ourselves about this one. I love gay guys as much as the next chick, maybe more, but I can’t date a gay fellow. I can go shopping, dude hunting, and to the gym with a gay fellow, but dating is not going to happen.

The Obviously Gay and In Denial Dude is online and pretending he likes women. He posts things on his profile about how much he loves shopping, manicures, and makeup, but he claims he is not gay. I am pretty open-minded and even went out with a boy like this in the past. And guess what? He was totally, obviously gay! While he ate his tender salad at dinner, he said things like, “You go, lady!” and “Everyone at Starbucks thinks I’m gay.” Ummm. yeah.

Mr. Huggy

Mr. Huggy is a dude that is seen frequently on all dating sites. Mr. Huggy wants everyone to know he is affectionate and friendly. He proves this by posting slew of photos of him hugging everyone he knows. Mr. Huggy is often seen hugging his mom, his sister, his female friends, and perhaps even his ex-girlfriend or some chicks he just met at the bar. The problem is, Mr. Huggy’s plan backfires with all these photos. Women do not see him as affectionate. Instead he is viewed more as “a ladies man” with these photos.

You see, to all you overly affectionate huggy guys out there, when a woman sees that practically every photo on your page features you hugging some other woman, she indeed doesn’t care who you are hugging. You look like the boy that can’t keep your forearms off other women. I don’t care if it states in fine print, “this is my cousin.” If you have 8 photos and most of them display you with other women, I am going to think you might be too much of a flirt with other gals. I could be totally wrong, but we won’t ever get a chance to find out. Feeling the need to post photos like that says something about you. You are attempting to create an photo that you are surrounded by other women all the time.

Furthermore, if you are the type of fellow that likes to pose with your “bros” while you are at a bar, those photos are not doing you much justice either. Basically, that tells me you string up out with dudes at the bar all the time. Where will I fit in? Also, most of the time when I see a photo with a group of guys, I don’t even know which dude is posting the photo. Who are you in the bunch? What is going on? Even if a boy points out which fellow he is in the group, most of the time, his friends are better looking. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wished to message a stud back and say, “I am not interested in you, but your friend is super hot in your third photo. Is he single?” So yeah. group photos. bad idea.

Gamer Boy

Gamer Fellow has been sitting in the basement and playing movie games for too long. Now, Gamer Stud is looking for a chick that might also like to hangout in the basement and play Warhammer online all day long. Sadly, Gamer Dude is not truly into going out on a date or anything that would actually involve physically leaving his computer, but he is more than blessed to open the door and let a lady in. especially if she brings pizza.

Oh, Gamer Stud, your sad existence is a total bummer. I hope one day you find that lady of your wishes, but maybe, just maybe, leaving the computer to take a shower and actually going outdoors to display up for a date will increase your chances of success.

Football Jersey Stud

Football Jersey Dude is the type of dude that pops up around September or October on all the dating websites. There are also slew of guys that join these sites in the spring as normal dudes, but turn into Football Jersey Fellow in the fall.

Basically, Football Jersey Stud is the fellow that is wearing a team’s football jersey in most of his profile photos. His breathtaking love for his dearest football teams compels him to wear a jersey in too many photos. I have to be fair with you, guys – unless you actually play for a real football team and you are wearing your actual football jersey, your attire does not impress the ladies. Most of us don’t mind one photo or two with a boy wearing a football jersey, but if Four out of Five of your photos shows you wearing your football jersey, it is kind of a turnoff.

Honestly, a football jersey is indeed not that flattering. If you are wearing a jersey, sitting on the couch, and drinking a beer in your photo, it is actually indeed sad. If you want to indeed impress the chicks, go outside and have a friend take a picture of you running with a football or something. At least that shows us you don’t spend every waking moment screaming at the TV during football season. Posing with your sports memorabilia does not help you either. Can you say obsession?

Overly Aggressive Man

Unluckily, many guys that use online dating sites can fall into the Overly Aggressive Boy category. For some reason, guys that are using online dating sites believe they are on a taut schedule and meeting women as prompt as possible is the purpose. Let me give you a chunk of advice guys: women might be online, but it is not like buying something on Amazon. You can’t just say, “I want that one,” and add a woman to your shopping cart. You need to actually email her and not creep her out in the process.

Overly Aggressive Dude gets upset when he sends an email, but a woman does not react to it within 24 hours. For some reason, Overly Aggressive Fellow gets enormously frustrated if he gives you his phone number and you do not react instantaneously. Sometimes a nasty, angry email will go after insisting on reasons why a phone call never occurred. Wow! Can anyone say, “anger management”? Time to shove the “block” button on the bottom of his profile.

Now that I’ve very likely angered some overly aggressive guys out there, it is time for me to leave the scene. After all, it is going to take some time for me to weed through all the angry responses I will get from this. And once again guys, please reminisce I would love to hear your stories as well. I am sure you will have joy categories like Crazy Cat Doll and Despairingly Seeking a Fresh Man Chick. I look forward to reading it.

Copyright Β©2011 Jeannieinabottle

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Jeannie InABottle 15 months ago from Baltimore, MD

Thank you! I am glad you liked it. I swear I think I dated a boy once that was a serial killer. He creeped me out so much, I actually had to make up an excuse and run away from the date. I am pretty sure there are bods buried in that fellow’s backyard. Glad I got away from him!

GreenEyes1607 15 months ago from USA

This had me laughing at times, but in the end it’s all very true. I think I have come across almost every type of fellow you listed while online dating. There’s always that thought in the back of your mind like ",I hope he’s not a serial killer", lol. Fortunately, none of my dates were otherwise I wouldn’t be here to talk about it. Excellent hub!

Jeannie InABottle Two years ago from Baltimore, MD

A-ha, it was most likely best to wait then. Sometimes things just work out best the longer you wait, I suppose.

Clayton Hartford Two years ago from Alger WA

Well, We waited because 1. She was 16 (legal in the UK where she is from) and was when we met, and Two. I was still living at home.

Jeannie InABottle Two years ago from Baltimore, MD

I do agree that after the very first day is too quick. However, I would also personally not wait Two years either. If that worked for you, that is cool. I usually talked online for at least a few days or longer. I am not using dating sites anymore since I met my fiancé, on one of them. Thanks for your comment and have a good day!

Clayton Hartford Two years ago from Alger WA

How could you want to meet someone in person so quick, i had a gal ask me on the very first day, and i dropped her and never spoke to her again. I met my wifey on line and didn’t mention meeting for two years. Maybe meeting to soon is the problem. Don’t shove you never know.

Jeannie InABottle Two years ago from Baltimore, MD

letstalkabouteduc, I am glad you brought this up. I once talked to a man online for several weeks and never met him. No matter how much I brought up the subject of meeting, he switched the subject. Funny thing is, he worked right down the block from me. It would have been effortless to meet during a lunch break or after work. I had to give up on him! For all I know, I was talking to your brother!

McKenna Meyers Two years ago from Arch, OR

Terrific hub! My brother is not a gamer, but he’s active with on-line dating with no intention of actually going on a real live date. Why? It’s way too messed up for me to decipher, but I’m sure he’s not the only one. I think it’s like belonging to Weight Watchers but not following their diet plan, you’re a little in but not indeed. I want women to know about these guys like my brother. If the boy doesn’t want to get together in the very first duo of weeks, don’t waste any more time and budge to the next!

Jeannie InABottle Two years ago from Baltimore, MD

That is so true. Those instant paramour guys are so pathetic. and a little scary.

ThatSweetGirl Two years ago

What about the ",Instant Paramours",?

The ones that don’t even know your name but already love you, or is that just with that those creepers determine that they love me for life and want to marry me after a few minutes?

Jeannie InABottle Trio years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thank you. I am glad you liked it.

Anish Kumar Trio years ago from Mundi Kharar, Mohali, Chandigarh, (Punjab)

Your hub is fairly funny.I like your hub.Thanks for this advice πŸ™‚

Jeannie InABottle Three years ago from Baltimore, MD

Sorry you feel that way about online dating sites. You certainly have the right to your opinion. I actually never had to treatment any studs online. I was approached all the time by boys, which is how I was able to write this hub. Good luck at the bars!

P.S. My fiancé, and I met online, so there are people who find success with it.

Marvin Holley Three years ago from Detroit, Michigan

Online dating is certainly(mostly) for chicks on the rebound, attention whores and women with low self-esteem. That’s why it’s usually a last resort to dating. I learned it was better to let women hit me up online and I not message them at all. When I get messaged by women, they never say anything clever or funny, it’s mostly just questions because without they’re bod or looks sadly women have little charm, or at least the ones I’ve dated which is a lot. Every possible saluting has been thought of so women don’t understand that a plain welcoming doesn’t mean I’m like the last boy that gave you a plain saluting, that’s why women tend to get weird shit messaged to them because we are attempting not to be like the other hundred hellos you just received. it’s also the wording of the sites like, ",match", or ",likes", which have different meanings online match truly means willing to admit that you are lovely enough me to press match yet we are most likely not matches. Same with the like button, but I thought she truly liked my so if I see online hell yeah I’m gonna hit her up. We like the same things according to the matched profiles so this should right, wrong. Hello, slightly works in any type of way, introductions slightly work, brief or long, I’ve actually had my success at telling the most vulgar shit, getting cursed out then apologizing and telling that it was just a joke to make you smile. which still confuses me. I’ll stick to bars and clubs where an response to a question doesn’t take 8-72 hours from someone who",likes", me lol. Goodluck fishing gentlemen cause you are gonna need it to find a decent chick on these sites

Jeannie InABottle Trio years ago from Baltimore, MD

Some dudes have a lot of nerve. I can’t believe how some guys behave on those sites. I wonder if the reasoning behind it is something like, ",if she does not like me yet, she will love me when I insult her.", I doubt that mechanism has ever worked for anyone ever, but what do I know?

Good luck with your online dating. At least they are not all total creeps. πŸ™‚

SugarQueen Trio years ago from Alabama

I just bit the bullet with a dating website again and got to practice my very very first Overly Aggressive Fellow, who proceeded to insult me by implying that I was only out for dick pics, then when I sent my message to an earlier comment (I hadn’t had the pleasure of reading the dick message yet) he determined to send me his phone number and mentioned that I should contact him, tho’ he thought I was acting like I thought I was too good for him.

I disregarded him and he sent me ANOTHER message the next day about how I’m such a game player and that he hopes I love dicks.

This noble Prince Charming of A-hole town is now blocked but I still can’t believe it GOT TO THIS. Like, disregarding you was a sign, dude. A sign to STOP MESSAGING ME.

ETI: Oh and he pulled the: ",You were my last resort before deleting this account",, in his earlier messages. For all the ladies out there–hope it’s true. But I sincerely doubt it!

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thanks so much for the votes and for checking out my hub. I am always shocked at how many studs post terrible photos on their profile in this day and age. I mean, just about everyone has a digital camera or a camera on their phone. There is no reason for such terrible photos! And yes, the guys that mention lovemaking right off the bat are pretty special, but according to some of my masculine friends, there are women out there that are blessed to react to just that. Who knew?

Thanks again for pulling down by!

I like that you’ve made this article unique, in part, because you’ve given funny names to the various online crazies out there. You are so right in telling that some guys’s pictures resemble mug shots. It’s just so weird that anyone would post an ugly photos like that. I mean, really– how can a man not understand that a picture needs to look pleasant, inviting and, well. normal. And don’t you just hate it when guys online say how one of the most significant things to them is Hook-up. Uh, right. Like women don’t already know that about fellows. But at least with a man like that, he’s pretty much given you the information you need to press Delete and not waste another minute of your time.

Anyhoo, your hub made me laugh. Voted Up &, funny.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

Levertis Steele – I have heard of those online relationships. How scary! There are too many dishonest people out there. I was not sure how to categorize the total fakes that are lounging about their gender, so I just kept that out of the hub, but you are so right. They are certainly out there. Thanks for your comment.

passionate77 -Thanks so much! I am glad you liked the hub, and yes, unluckily most of it is totally happening on dating sites on any given day.

passionate77 Four years ago

interesting post in a bit funny way but too true to the point, loved reading, stay blessed!

Levertis Steele Four years ago from Southern Clime

",On every dating site, there is a super creepy fellow hiding about. On some sites, there are numerous freakish looking dudes wandering around all over the site.",

This is so true, but some of these guys–women too–are crafty enough to put on sheep’s clothing in order to land their catch. Now, that’s dangerous.

How about the lonely gay guys and women who pretend that they are the opposite hook-up in order to have an online affair with straight people? Some have even had the nerve to meet their ",honey", with hopes of being accepted. Imagine what this does to a masculine macho who has fallen head-over-heels in love. I sympathize with the single guys and gals who get fooled, but the married ones who are computer creeps–LOL! Sorry.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

idigwebsites – I also met my bf online, too. We’ve been together for almost a year. even however he is a bit of the ",football jersey", fellow. πŸ™‚ Thanks for ripping off by my hub!

rebeccamealey – Online dating can be joy, but it can be a bit scary at times. I am glad I got to practice it for a while tho’. Thanks for your comment!

starstream – There are some creepy dudes, but slew of normal guys as well. Online dating is certainly an escapade. Thanks for visiting my hub!

Dreamer at heart Four years ago from Northern California

This is a super article! While my online dating occurred in 1999 there are some very similar situations. I met two wonderful fellows and one creepy stud. So, be cautious everyone!

Rebecca Mealey Four years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

Sadly I never got to practice online dating, but it sounds like you have covered every type of boy out there. Good job!

idigwebsites Four years ago from United States

I met my beau online! I was fairly fortunate in that. He turned out to be indeed nice in real life, plus we share almost the same interests. We’ve been together for 7 years. πŸ™‚

Clayton Hartford Four years ago from Alger WA

GwennyOh- unluckily shows like Oprah and others like her concentrate on the bad, if they told good stories the ratings would fall through the floor. Sensationalism is what people care about, not the truth

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

I met my bf online too. Thank goodness for the internet. πŸ™‚

Clayton Hartford Four years ago from Alger WA

I met my wifey on line in 99 met n in for very first time in person in 02, she moved here and we got married in 04, had our very first baby in 11 and will be married for Ten years next year. If not for the web I don’t know where I’d be.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

I have a pretty high tolerance for online ",weirdness", now, but every now and then, I would still see a boy online that shocked me. For now, I have been dating someone for Four months I met online. he is pretty normal! πŸ™‚ Thanks for checking out my hub!

I am cheerfully married but it is interesting to see how times have switched.I met my wifey through my work and after awhile everything clicked.I can see how hard and scary it could be for any woman on a dating site.You startled me me away and I’m a man.My cousin divorced looking for love in all the wrong places.He agreed with you on many topics.I think old fashioned ways might still be the best way.Interesting and shocking.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thanks so much! I am glad you liked it. πŸ™‚

Victoria Four years ago from Long Island N.Y

I love this article! It speaks the truth and it also gave me a good chuckle.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

GwennyOh – You have to be indeed careful with online dating sites. I am cautious, but I do take chances here and there. Some guys are weird, but there are slew of nice guys, too. Thanks for your comment!

bisnar6665 – Thanks so much! I am glad you liked my hub.

John Four years ago from Irvine, California

LOL. Your hub is hilarious! They need to have a dateline for people like this!

",Why don’t you take a seat",

",I think I should leave",

",I dreamed to find love",

",You’re not going to find it. You can leave if you promise that you will go home and stop using online dating sites",

GwennyOh Four years ago from LaLa Land

I have been married for some time, so online dating is not something I have given thought to. I spotted an Oprah demonstrate many years ago, where women spoke of some earnestly bad stuff that had happened to them due to meeting fellows they had corresponded with online. One woman had her skull crushed with a baseball bat.

You just don’t know who you will meet. But online dating sites are likely going to attract some members who have issues within ‘real life’ society.

Thanks for this thought provoking article.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thanks so much! Online dating can be an venture, but it is possible to meet a ideally nice person while using the sites, too. It helps to have a sense of humor until meeting that ideally nice person. πŸ™‚

Susan Bailey Four years ago from South Yorkshire, UK

Hilarious! I will of course bear all this in mind if I ever give way to internet dating. Voted up and funny.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thanks so much! I am blessed you loved it. Online dating certainly has its ups and downs. πŸ™‚

weavesandbraids Four years ago from Africa

Gravely funny. I haven’t laughed so much in a while. Enough to put anyone off online dating.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

I just attempt to look at it as an escapade and that works best. I am presently dating someone that does not fall into any of the categories above and I am pleased about that. πŸ™‚ Thanks for your comment!

Theophanes Four years ago from Fresh England

I never partook in online dating so I had no idea. but this was as funny as it was educational for me! thanks for the chuckle and for Pete’s Sake stay away from the serial killers and Mr I-Want-You-NOW-dammit! Best wishes in your continued search. πŸ™‚

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

hungryhambergur – It is funny when you see someone on a dating site that you actually know in ",real life", and connect again. I’ve had that happen too. Thanks for checking out my hub!

Ardot – I’ve found the most successful online dating stories often begin with two people meeting without indeed looking for each other. There is less pressure and people act more like themselves. However, I do know two married couples that met on POF, so it can work on dating sites, too. I am not too sure foot fetish gal exists either, but then again, I am not looking for her. ,-) Thanks for your comment!

Jmillis2006 – I am blessed you loved my hub. Maybe you will give online dating a shot sometimes. I can be. ummm. interesting. Thanks for the vote up!

Jmillis2006 Four years ago from North Carolina

I have never indeed attempted online dating , but this was a very entertaining hub. voted up.

Ardot Four years ago from Canada

I actually met my wifey online in a talk room on yahoo, BEFORE Facebook! In those days it was effortless to be ",the dude who says he is a chick and talks with guys as a dame", stud.

In those days the online dating scene was for prison inmates and weirdo’s posing as people they were not.

But earnestly, I met her in the talk room but was not looking to meet anyone, I was just suspending out (as a man) and happened to find a normal person who lived nearby.

By not looking for love online, I have avoided all of the above profiles you have mentioned.

Good. good, fine hub. I love the way you used humor to get across a real point. It can be very dangerous to meet face to face with anyone online.

BTW, guys, stop looking for the elusive ",foot fetish gal",. She does not exist as you imagine her.

Nicholas Four years ago from Denver

Thank you for your post. Nice to understand the online dating scene from a women’s perspective. Only success story I have is running into a chick I dated and became friends after meeting again.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thanks so much! And ohhh, a MySpace success story! I don’t hear about too many of those, but I recall dating a boy or two from MySpace. Those dates actually went better than many of my POF dates. πŸ™‚

Lol this article is hilarious! Incidentally I met my hubby on MySpace!

Jenny Four years ago from Fresh York City

Good point (about not knowing until you’re at mom’s house haha). Reminds me of the movie Hangover

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

Oh yes, the Mama’s Boy. There are slew of them on dating sites. You just can’t tell at very first. It takes a date or two (sometimes at Mom’s house) before you realize it. Thanks for checking out my hub!

Jenny Four years ago from Fresh York City

Indeed joy article to read. Just wished to add Mama’s boy. I’m sure others have already commented, but there are the good o’ normal guys too =)

Jessica “Zeke’ Four years ago from Indianapolis

Your welcome. I do understand that, they can be hard to date when that’s all they want to talk about. Even if you, yourself, play games it gets old.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

I have also dated the gamer man in the past. He is not a horrible person, but typically gamer dude is not a joy date. he’d rather just take you to play movie games rather than do anything else. πŸ™‚ Thanks for your comment!

Jessica “Zeke’ Four years ago from Indianapolis

I choose the gamer dude more then any of those guys. I like games and find that if you run out of things to talk about then just ask them what game they are playing and within hours you are able to figure out all the cheats to your fresh game.

Jeannie InABottle Four years ago from Baltimore, MD

I think I’ve dated just about all the guys on this list, too. There are some real weirdos out there! Thanks for your comment!

Jessica “Zeke’ Four years ago from Indianapolis

So awesome, I am Nineteen years old and have dated all these guys before or at least meet them online or in person. Everything you said is basically true.

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thanks so much for your comment! You are so right. there isn’t much difference inbetween the guys online and guys from high school. As a matter of fact, I think many guys still believe they are in high school and haven’t matured much beyond it. ,-)

This was funny! It looks like there is not much difference out there from the guys that were in high school, well except there is the scary factor now. Love this hub! Thank you and I agree that our ",gut", instinct truly is the tell-tale sign of fear telling you to run like hell or maybe some fluttery butterfly telling ",hey this could work!", Thank your for sharing humor and good information.

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thanks for the excellent advice! I totally believe in background checks too. There are some truly shady characters out there. I can’t believe what a crazy fellow you ending up meeting. I am glad you had him figured out. I think slew of guys are OK online, just a lot are socially awkward or timid. It is a crazy world out there!

personalitykills Five years ago

I think most guys online are are weirdo’s (not all but most). A quick real life script that happened to me recently. I am a filmmaker who was hiring actors for a brief film I was doing. One particular actor and I hit it off as friends and embarked talking. He is presently on his 2nd wifey and from the UK (Wales).

He claims he fell in-love with me and only married twice for his citizenship. I commenced to smell a rat and felt everything he was telling to me was a lie so I investigated him found his very first wifey and she told me everything pertaining to who this boy indeed is.

He has a rape charge against him from when he was 16 cheated on her with transsexuals and a cocktail waitress and was also physically abusive.

She and I recently got in-touch with his current wifey who is pregnant and sent her some evidence and info.

All I have to say is this practice rocked my world and indeed makes me look at fellows in a different way. Not telling women can’t be shady but I do feel there are far more fellows who need to be upfront and fair with people about who they are especially if they are gay/bisexual.

My advice to everyone is to indeed do their homework on individuals. I find most people just get caught up in fake charm etc. Truly ask questions one thing he always said was ",I’m very very clever",. I’m glad I didn’t date him or marry him (not that I would). Pay attention to crimson flags and listen to your gut.

Above all DO YOUR HOMEWORK! Background checks and interviews with the exes nowadays you can’t be too careful or too trusting.

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thanks so much! I indeed appreciate your feedback and thanks for sharing my hub. It has been a weird and rocky road with online dating.

The online dating and meeting is bitter and sweet practice both at the time or at the different time. Thanks for sharing this awesome information. Indeed amazed with your touch to online meeting. Liked and collective

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

This is supposed to be a sarcastic hub based on my actual practices. There indeed are some guys like this on the dating sites. not all. Lighten up, dude.

Mark Passarelli Five years ago from Lakewood Colorado

I don’t think it is adequate to judge people and put them in categories like this. Anyway, seems like you are being truly negative and stereotyping people based on vague impressions.

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

I do know what you mean. it is effortless to get affixed to people you don’t know because you embark to feel like you know them. However, there is a time to let go. I’ve approached guys that have totally disregarded me, too. It happens. Thanks for the comment!

I think we have typecast just a bit. Most likely guilty of getting upset when not replied to- but I admit it, at least. You stay on a site for Four years and meet a profile that is a ideal match. of course you don’t Indeed KNOW THE PERSON. but you commence to believe that it’s all been worthwhile because of how much you have in common, how funny you find her, and how adorable she is, etc., etc., and you get ZILCH. I don’t think too many studs would find this Joy. Of course, you just stir on, etc., etc., etc., etc., etc, etc, etc.

fallingforyou Five years ago

Fine Article, I actually do online dating as well, and yes there are some creapers out there, and there are some good guys too. It’s a lot of work filtering through and finding good dates. Thank you for sharing.

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Oh yes, both showcase a lot of style and class. When I see those photos, I think ",winner!", πŸ™‚

Lovelovemeloveme Five years ago from Cindee’s Land

actually, i love it even more when they take pictures with 20 dollar bills. Or sunglasses in a dark room! =D

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Yes, it is an added bonus if the room is dark and the photo is a little grainy. That serial killer look is so hot. Hehe. Thanks for the comment.

Lovelovemeloveme Five years ago from Cindee’s Land

HAHAH love this hub! thanks!

Nothing attracts me more than a profile picture of a stern man glaring at the lenses, unshaven , hair a mess, and half naked.

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thanks so much! There are some creepy dudes out there. πŸ™‚

This is so funny. but very insightful. Good job.

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Jessie Whitmere – We just might have dated the same fellow! Hahaha. I think some guys need to come to terms with what they indeed want. It is sad to live a lie. Even weirder, the fellow I went out with had even managed to find a wifey at some point, but it ended quickly. Bet I know why! Thanks for the comment!

Grant N.Z. – Don’t be timid on the dating sites. There are slew of people out there that are also timid, but would be blessed if someone sent them a message. The worst thing that can happen is someone turns you down or never responds. It is nothing private. As long as you don’t come across as being too forward, people are usually nice to you. Give it a attempt! Thanks for the comment.

macteacher – You are so right. creepy and aggressive never work. Some people just weren’t trained manners and that is a shame. Thanks for ripping off by!

Wendy Golden Five years ago from Fresh York

Excellent hub advising the perils of online dating. There are so many socially challenged people attempting to find love online. They don’t get that their behavior online is just as significant as offline. Creepy and aggressive doesn’t work in any format. LOL.

Grant N.Z Five years ago from Fresh Zealand

Very Good. Made me laugh. I am single and a masculine. I have always had a fucking partner all my life until the last duo of years. So i joined a dating site. And one thing you have said is 100 percent correct for me. I have been on the site for Two years. I never send smiles, messages etc etc. Because as you said , i don’t know how to react. And rather than get it wrong i just look and never interact. That is stupid , as i am a nice dude, i am resonabley clever ,[except when it comes to spelling]. But am just not good at talking by typing , particularly when i think the lady is pretty , and i don’t want to stuff anything up. So i just convinse myself i am busy and tell myself i will do something about dating later. I suppose its because i have always meet any playmates in person. And we have ended up together just because we meet by chance and got on so well. Dating sites seem so planned , serial killers must like that part. I live in Fresh Zealand and am not sure if we have ever had a serial killer. In fack i have just asked some of my workmates, some being fairly older and they have all siad , NO , NZ has never had a serial killer. Mind you we didn’t realey get into online dating sites until it had been in the USA for fairly some time. Perhaps we are just a bit slower at beginning fresh things. Perhaps i could be our very first serial killer. And maybe because i make jokes like that it proves i will never do any good at dating. Anyway i liked your hub and i made me laugh. You are funny. Cheers Grant

Jessie Whitmire Five years ago

My only date from an online dating site was with someone who I think might be gay. He made negative comments about my appearance. He also noticed my boots and makeup and took me to a gay bar. He was also a wank.

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

We seem to be attracting the same people. So many people tell me success stories, yet I can’t seem to find that myself. I don’t know what is going on out there, but there are a lot of weirdos on those sites. Thanks for reading and thanks for the comment!

Rachael Cleveland Five years ago from Woodbridge, VA

You hit it right on the money! I have the power of pulling gay fellows from the woodwork and have been in the awkward situation of attempting to date gay guys many times. The other people I met in my online forays were just pervs attempting to get with an overly naï,ve, overly trusting, clever, verbose youthful lady with self-esteem issues.

I’m sure for many people, online dating is flawless. For me, it was just another way to lodge. I met my SO through a friend and am very appreciative of how everything fell into place naturally. And it turns out, he is about 90% less creepy than anyone I met online!

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Good advice! Thanks for sharing. πŸ™‚

Ya there are some good guys out there. I’m very blessed with one of them now. Just be careful out there everyone! ",)

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

It sure can be a scary thing sometimes. So far, I’ve met a duo of decent guys even if it hasn’t worked out. I am usually able to weed out the weirdos before dating them, but every now and then one sneaks through. Thanks for the comment and the concern!

Dating online can be a very scary thing. There are all kinds of weirdos out there. Fortunately I didn’t meet a weirdo and it actually worked out superb. I’m still with him and still blessed. Be careful out there everyone however cuz there are a few ",special", people who have nothing better to do than mess with people.

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Oh, Hunter Dude. I guess that is a regional thing. If I find a stud with guns in his photos, he is killing people not animals. I live in Baltimore, so things might be a little different here. I think I might search in a different region so I can see Hunter Boy. He sounds. ummm. interesting. Thanks for sharing this with me!

You left behind one . . . Hunter Dude. I moved from AZ to OK and noticed that some studs out here, for some fully uncomprehensible reason, evidently think that it is manly to have the main photo of themselves in fatigues with a dead buck/deer! Is that to prove they can bring home the ",bacon",?! Are they going to expect me to butcher it?! Eeeeewwwwww.

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thank you both so much!

Turtlewoman, yes, every now and then, there are totally normal guys on these sites. Sometimes they are just timid or they are tired of dating women at bars. Thanks for the votes!

amymarie_5, I know exactly what you mean. I can’t stand the bar photos, but even more than that, what type of message does that send? Oh yes, the Mama’s Boy. I hate the Mama’s Boys, but I have a firmer time sorting through those online. I basically just state in my profile not to treatment me if a boy lives with his mom. I guess that weeds them out. Thanks for the vote and for sharing!

amymarie_5 Five years ago from Chicago IL

What a good idea for a hub! Don’t know how I never thought of it. This is all so true. I once got messages by a boy whose main picture was him at bar with his arms around scantily clad women who obviously worked there. Not sure why he thought that would be a good idea for a profile pic! There’s one othe type that I came across that ive got to add: the mamas boy! These guys write things like ", looking for a REAL woman who will cook and clean while I’m at work.", Then you kinda realize why these guys are single πŸ™‚

This was so amusing. Rated all ups and collective!

Kim Lam Five years ago from California

Hey I recognize the fellow with the beard that you posted! We dated for. heehee just kidding. He does look pretty creepy. I’m sure there are a lot of weirdos out there on dating sites. But once in a while there are some decent guys (like some of my man friends) who are tired of picking up women at the bar/club. Then there are the timid ones and the indeed busy professionals. but I think the majority rules when it comes to all the ones that you mentioned in this hub. Voted up and interesting! πŸ™‚

Jeannie InABottle Five years ago from Baltimore, MD

Online dating can be joy. It can also be creepy. I agree there are totally normal people using dating sites or I wouldn’t use them. However, there are certain ",types", on each site and I find that funny. Sometimes I think it is just the same dude on each site. Thanks for the comment!

bryanbaldwin Five years ago from Los Angeles

Lets not give ",online", too bad of a wrap. Online dating won’t cure your dating problems, it’s just another options to meet people. If all you do is attract ",crazy", people ",real life", or online. the problem is something else.

That being said, I love online dating and have met some wonderful women and some crazies, just like real life.

I encourage everyone I know to give it a shot.

Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

Yeah, some dudes need to peaceful down. I am not going out on a date with some random dude too quickly. Thanks for reading and for the comment!

Shaddie 6 years ago from Washington state

Overly Aggressive Man was always my least dearest. They need to take some chill pills.

Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

Hahaha. chances are, I would meet a serial killer before I would win the lottery. Wow. she does sound like an overly aggressive lady. I guess there are some creepy women online, too. Thanks for reading and for the comment!

Vladi Dorfman 6 years ago

Heya, a indeed good and entertaining read!

I think the chance of meeting a serial killer is close to scoring on the lottery, these guys are very uncommon albeit it’s very likely not very pleasant to actually ",score", and meet them as opposed to winning the lottery.

I once dated an ",overly aggressive lady", I met online (drawing a parallel line here), it somewhat shocked me to know she dated over 15 guys in a very brief period of time. No doubt, relationship was discontinued quickly (it actually came from her, but I was loosened!).

Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

You are very fortunate. There are some real creeps out there. Not every fellow is creepy tho’. I am dating someone normal right now. Thanks for reading and posting a comment!

Lisa Kroulik 6 years ago from Minnesota

I got SO fortunate after I commenced dating again after my divorce. I married the Very first man I met Ten months later! Makes me all the more grateful after reading what I could have met.

Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

There are some indeed crazy dudes using online dating sites. Thanks for reading and posting a comment.

L Crist 6 years ago from Arizona

I’ve had some interesting practices! One of my hubs, about blended families, talks a lot about online dating.

Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

Hahaha. Yes, I just had an encounter over the weekend with a fresh overly aggressive dude. He got angry because I stepped away from my computer for Ten minutes to do laundry. Then he blocked me! However, he sent an apology on Sunday which I totally overlooked. Oh, overly aggressive guys! How annoying. Thanks for reading and thanks for the comment.

KitsJay 6 years ago from Houston

Oh, Overly Aggressive Dude, I reminisce him. He’s most likely still confused why I blocked him.

This was funny and absolutely spot-on! Excellent hub!

Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

Thanks so much! I am glad you liked it. I keep dealing with more and more weirdos online, I might need to make another hub on this subject.

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